You Can't Hurt Me!

Wow…

I knew that minding the whole of my life was about minding the WHOLE of my ENTIRE life ….but some things can be so damn complicated!

I have had to pleasure to encounter someone who is challenging me to open not just my mind… but my heart. This can be worse than Algebra!!!

We all have a desire to love and be loved but because of past experiences and love lost, we shut down and build walls. (I am going to need some dynamite to tear these suckers down!!!) We think we want love but we become afraid of being hurt. We believe that if you don’t open up no one can hurt us.. but the reality is…if you don’t open up.. no one can love you.

And that is because you are not ALLOWING them to love you.

It takes so much courage to be vulnerable. I know it does. I was just told that even with all the hurt and disapointment, it is still all worth it. It is intoxicating and invigorating . Vulnerability is truly about displaying the beauty of who we are without all the masks, agendas, lies, deceptions and preconceptions.It is about exposing the truth of you!

THAT. IS. SOME. HARD. SHIT.

I type that with a smile because I know better! It is so much easier to see beyond the surface in the lives of others but not always so easy when we look at our own. I have told friends that they need to be open to love to receive love. That they have to trust themselves and trust life if they are to get what they “say” their heart desires. When we are closed we are doing 1 of 2 things. We are asking to attract people and experiences that mirror how CLOSED we are (and then wonder why we can’t find love.) or We will sabotage anything that looks remotely like love because it is not in harmony with who we are at that time.

So.. once again.. it is application time and it is time to be honest with ourselves and our heart! It is truly time to let go of yesterday and the delusion that I am not in control of my life or my feelings. The truth of who I am yearns to love unabashedly and deeply and intensely and with abandon. Dare I strip naked and reveal all?????

There is only one answer.

YES! YES! and YES!

I know that the only power that exists is love and everything else is just a judgment of percerption, it is time to live it instead of just thinking it.

Who needs a fraction anyway?

Minding your Business….

Is much like seeking balance in EVERY area of your life. I am working on minding all of my affairs including business, finances, my spirituality, my personal life, school, real estate, my health… the whole of my life.

Each day I am presented with an opportunity to manage all that is on my plate and being presented to me. We get what we ask for then struggle to juggle…

Despite outward appearances… J I have to look within and evaluate because my happiness depends on it! I am not happy when I allow “let myself off the hook.” It is sooo easy to do what is easy but so much more gratifying when we do what is in our hearts to do.

Accountability is a theme for me and I am learning to prioritize and become mesmerized by my own power to be ME.. my own power to control what is in front of me…what is best for me.

I am experiencing growing pains as I struggle with breaking old habits. I am currently STRUG-A-LING with of my desire to run away when the going gets tough… I have to learn to wade thru things that don’t come easy so I get to a point where there is no such thing as an obstacle.

I am taking an Algebra class and it is KICK-ING –MY –ASS!!! But that is because I don’t want to study, I don’t want to pay attention, I don’t want to do a damn equation, slope, fraction…. I barely want to multiply!!!!!!! But now it is no longer about what I want to do… it is about WHAT I HAVE TO DO. Once I complete this class I will have my degree.. and that means that the habit I acquired of feeling defeated by long division and calculating expressions can be NO MORE! I must become strong in the areas where I am weak and develop dexterity. I must remain focused on the goal and keep my mind on what I CAN accomplish or all of this will have been for…nothing.

This is not really about distributive property or exponents… this is about commitment, discipline and practicing the art of completion.

This is about stamina.. PLAIN AND SIMPLE.

This is the time for me to grow up.. Coming with me???

Just when I thought I GOT IT!!!!

So far this year I have had the following vocabulary words: COURAGE, PEACE, DISCIPLINE, ACCOUNTABILITY, OBEDIENCE, TRUST and recently DEXTERITY. If this isn’t minding my own business… I don’t know what is!!!!!! Now if I can pass this algebra class, I can add SELF-RESPECT to the list!

As I wrote in my previous post “Lessons in Allowing” I talked about the people I work with and how I choose to view the situation.. (most days). I talked to a very wise man about this today and he told me much of what I already knew but needed to hear AGAIN. He asked me why I am giving it so much energy and THOUGHT…my thoughts. He said… :there is peace when you live in the moment, not the past or the present just this NOW moment.” He said that I must see past what is in front of me and focus my thoughts on what I want.

Then he told me to ask myself “is it worth it?” Is it? Do I have to answer that? Then that means I shouldn’t have a need to write about it in my blog… TWICE!!! The lessons are endless!

Some days are easier than others. Today I was feeling kinda shitty so I called my sage..... My Mother. She said to me "no man is your enemy, no man is your friend but every man is your teacher." Enough said. She again confirmed that this is a great lesson in patience and that a "wise man holds his tongue...." Enough said...

It is "application time!"

So each workday I am given an opportunity to practice patience, peace, and forgiveness. I know I am given the chance to rise above the ego and not let anything outside of me dictate how I feel and react. This is an opportunity for mastery…

And even though I know, nothing can affect me unless I allow it….

Boy… oh boy…

I said it is necessary… NOT EASY!!!

I try to remember… Mind yours today…because tomorrow doesn’t exist!

What's Your Worth???

This has been a profound week of life lessons and self mastery. I have been busy but with all that is happening I have to make time to document all the epiphanies and the learning experiences I am presented with.

I am embarking upon a magnificient and fortuitous time of my life and this is the time where I am constantly reminded to “mind my business.” As my desires are manifesting themselves and people and opportunities are pouring into my lap…I must be ever mindful of ME. I have to constantly keep my eye on my agenda and anything that I ALLOW to take from me and my sense of SELF.

As we expand, the lessons may not be so apparent and we always have to be ever vigilant in listening to our inner voice and paying attention to our emotions.

These last couple of weeks the “help” that I have been wanting has come my way. I have been wanting and asking for business partners, mentors etc.. but none never appeared until now. The beautiful thing about that is….. I know they showed up AFTER I realized that I didn’t NEED them. I know now that I don’t need anyone outside of me to make me whole, successful, or validated. I learned the true meaning of security and my world opened up. As things I have been wanting are falling into place. People come in the name of “helping” but their help requires me to negotiate a part of myself. It is like I have to sell out to buy in! With each encounter I faced an opportunity to choose to trust myself and trust my instinct or allow someone to give me something “I had asked for” with the price tag labeled “Cerita’s Esteem” attached. I had to give of me to get from them. I must say that I was very grateful that I was able to see what was in front of me and happier that I was able to choose ME. There is NOTHING anyone can give me that I can’t give myself! Truth comes with no AGENDA and I know that if we are patient enough, we will find just that.

Minding one’s business is a process and a never ending experience. We are given opportunity after opportunity to step into the power that we ALREADY are... and when you do… nothing is out of reach.

It is truly the belief and the confidence in ONESELF that attracts all the people, places and things we “think” we desire!

So go ahead…. MIND YOURS…and get ahead!

Lessons in ALLOWING!!!!

The Univerise is soooo slick! :-) Around every corner, behind every thought is an oppurtunity to grow.

I am going thru a powerful lesson as I have been blessed to work with some people who I say need to MIND THEIR DAM BUSINESS!!! They are nosey, full of resentment and bitterness…

Wait…..

I’m in their business ain’t I????? See how easy it is!!!!!

Let me retract my statements (even though I am allowed to still feel that way! J).. and say that however they choose to live their lives is none of my… (say it with me) DAM BUSINESS. There is perfection in who they are as they are. They are blessing me because they remind me of my own power. They remind me to live my life to the fullest and set lofty goals. They remind me that the desires of the heart sustain with age and dreams really never die. They remind me that the soul is never content to settle. They teach me all the time…

And…

The most powerful lesson they have taught me is something I read in an Abraham-Hicks book. I must allow them to be even in their disallowing of me! It is their choice and I have a choice as to how I respond.

I was angry in their disallowing but if I was minding my business I would be focused on the peace in my spirit. I would have the courage to be in the present moment and see them for who they are in THAT moment. I would not have animosity in my heart as I approached each work day with them, my thoughts would not be affected by anything outside of me….. I would simply just be…..

There will always be people with an opinion. That is their choice and the gift of life.

We have the choice to walk in our own power and allow all that is and when you do you will realize that on the other side of that is….

PEACE.

You never thought minding your perspective could be so easy…..

Well…

IT IS! :-)

So... Are You Brainwashed????

Of course by now you have heard about the compound in Texas. The Cult. The Polygamist. The Pedophiles. The Brainwashed. The……….

I chose to write about this topic because it is a perfect opportunity to remind you of what my mother used to say “People in glass houses should not throw stones!” As you shake your head and point your finger, I urge you to MIND YOUR DAM BUSINESS!!! A looser boyfriend once told me that when you point one finger at someone else, you have four pointing back at you. He used a wise adage to escape responsibility for his actions, but truth is truth none less. I think… I will be so bold to say that I KNOW the world would be a better place if people would mind their lives and place the magnifying glass within.

Get a piece of scratch paper now damit because I am giving you your first homework assignment!

You look at people and question how they choose to live their lives so I ask you to ask yourself…

What are your addictions? What has you bonded in chains of slavery? How do you play the “victim” to circumvent responsibility for your own life? What defeating and limiting thoughts do you think that keep you from realizing all you say you want in life but think you can’t have? What truths do you ignore so you won’t have to live life at a higher level? Why are you insecure? What do you blame your parents for? _____ (Fill in the blank. Do I need to add spaces here?????) What promises do you make to yourself that you NEVER keep? Why do you give your life force to a job you hate to buy things you don’t need? What outside of you defines you? Do you even know your truth? Have you thought about the purpose of life- your life? Why are you NOT who you want to be? Why do you run away from the power that you ALREADY are? Why do you feel like you are not “good enough”??? What keeps you from loving you right now? What change can you make today to change the whole of your life? Who the hell set a good enough standard anyway???? Who is this THEY that makes us all feel like shit????

What will you think about as your life as you breathe your last breath?

They say the average life span is 75 years old. That means we get an average of 75 beautiful summers, 75 times to watch the leaves fall as nature prepares for its next transition, 75 times to hibernate in the winter and 75 times to watch everything bloom and blossom and renew again. We have an average of 75 years to return to love. Return to the truth of who you are in happiness, peace, and loving exactly who we are as we are. Does it take 75 years to figure out that we have always had all we need because we have CHOICE?

Hopefully you will have more than 75 years to get past the illusion of the importance of everything that is OUT THERE and return to LOVING everything that is IN THERE. It doesn't have to take 75 years or 75 days because you can make the choice in an instant. The most beautiful thing is that when you do… everything “out there” falls into place and there is a divine synchronicity that occurs in your life.

So I say to you as I say to myself. Self-Actualization occurs when you focus your thoughts and your energy on the beauty and the good of YOU. Everyone has their journey, let them live it!!!! You have the choice of what you invite into your experience, so choose wisely!

Be well, Be real, and Mind Your Dam Business!!!

You Want to Know Why I am Here?

My official FIRST post!

I am excited about the opportunity to connect with others thru this blog and share my TRUTH. More importantly than that, I am excited about connecting with the truth of who I am. A teacher once told me that writing becomes your indelible word. It becomes your law. Writing speaks the words of the heart, those words your lips may never speak. Writing is magical. It is a very introspective process and I have found that when I write, all the things that are real come to light. Questions are answered and fears are erased. I think people read and write blogs because it represents raw unadulterated accuracy, correctness, exactness… all from the perspective of the author. The most beautiful part of that is ....we ALL right get to be right because our truth is our perspective.

In this blog, I will write about anything and everything and all things. I will talk about life, the struggles that we all face in “growing up” everyday. I will talk about spirituality and please be sure that I will talk plenty about real estate! I believe in “knowing thyself” but I also believe in “knowing thy RICH self!” Balancing all that makes life worth living is so very important. It is a juggling act as we all must have enough courage to listen to our TRUE selves to determine what is REALLY important. No matter how hard we try, we can’t run from ourselves! In fact, when you mind your own dam business.... you are minding the most beautiful thing that has ever existed.........YOU. I look forward to this process and sharing it with all of you.

I send you my love and support!